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Mandy Capehart

The daily routines running our lives often come as a reaction to the needs around us. We are not living intentionally; we simply react to the day based on what serves best in the moment. …


Personal Essay

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Robert Thurman is an icon of American Buddhism and co-author of the book, “Love Your Enemies,” with longtime friend and meditation teacher Sharon Salzberg. This is a paraphrase of something I heard him say on the topic of anger and self-compassion:

“We’re very switchable in our moods and minds. The…


Tested Advice from a Grief Coach

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Thought distortions, blame games, and external influences are all ways we inadvertently deepen our wounds in grief. While we would never intentionally make our feelings heavier, sometimes we may need a reminder to revisit the script we read each day.

What stories are we believing about ourselves, our lives, and…


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Hi, new friends!

It’s an honor that you would make time to read my story.

My job title has changed a number of times, but the undercurrent of learning never stops.

In addition to being a writer and editor, my background includes coffee, wine education, travel, finance, teaching, journalism, anthropology, religion/spirituality, music, cooking, graphic design, marketing, social media, storytelling, interpersonal communication, personal development, photography, public…


Advice from a Rebel Leader

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Boundaries are crucial in every relationship, including the relationship with have with ourselves. When what you think impedes what you want, your boundaries are broken, toxic, and uncomfortably secure around the comfort zone of another. Have you ever said yes to an event, volunteer role, creative task, or project out…


Reckoning with our grief in a way that brings permission to the process is necessary, but it is very easy to dismiss our right and need to grieve.

Disenfranchised or ambiguous grief affects everyone differently. Although we don’t want you to scour your life story for grief you may have…


Answer: My friend, this is a judgment-free arena.

Ask a Grief Coach is an online column to address commonly received questions in private work with my clients. All names are kept anonymous, and the questions are shared with permission. As you read, keep the context of your own story in mind. No answers found here will apply directly to your circumstance because your grief is unique to you. However, the hope is that you will find tools and tips of support, whether you are the griever or the supporter.

Dear Mandy,
I am the reason I am grieving. This event in my life — the source of this grief — is turning out to be more traumatic than I realized it would become. It’s easily the worst case scenario outcome of one…


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Our children want cell phones at such an early age because they see adults and teens treat their phones like royalty. Our child doesn’t have her own, but continually asks when she will be old enough. …


Ask a Grief Coach is an online column to address commonly received questions in private work with my clients. All names are kept anonymous, and the questions are shared with permission. As you read, keep the context of your own story in mind. No answers found here will apply directly to your circumstance because your grief is unique to you. However, the hope is that you will find tools and tips of support, whether you are the griever or the supporter.

Dear Mandy,
I didn’t realize it at first, but now that my grief process has continued actively for some time, I think I need to grieve myself. The sense of who I used to be before these great losses and the dreams I had of a certain future are at odds…


Do they think we forget about death?

I know these advocacy months are not for the people like me. Those who’ve lost have a very hard time forgetting. And now, it’s October. “Pregnancy, Infant, and Child Loss Awareness” month. I have too many thoughts and not enough words. October is…

Mandy Capehart

Writing about grief, beliefs, & psych/mindfulness. Editor of Ask a Grief Coach. Happily Tweeting & doing other “Very Good Things.” I apologize in advance.

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